1) “No offense, but…”

When someone uses the phrase “no offense,” it is often a clear indication that they are about to say something offensive. While they may think that adding this phrase lessens the blow, it actually still offends. A truly genuine person would not resort to such inauthentic behavior. If they have negative feedback to offer, they would do so in a polite and respectful manner without the need for “no offense.”

2) “As long as you’re happy”

This phrase is a dismissive way of expressing disagreement or disapproval. By saying “as long as you’re happy,” the person is subtly hinting their contempt towards your preferences or choices. A genuine individual would offer their honest opinion without dismissing or belittling what brings you joy or excitement. They would express their thoughts respectfully and possibly provide suggestions for improvement or alternatives.

3) “You’re too [trait]”

Everyone is unique, and no one should be judged for who they are. When someone says “you’re too [trait],” they are essentially criticizing or implying that there is something inherently wrong with that trait. A genuine person understands that what may be considered “too much” by one person can be perfectly acceptable or even appreciated by someone else. They would embrace the differences and celebrate individuality, rather than using it as a means of judgment or criticism.

4) “Aren’t you lucky”

Assigning someone’s achievements or successes solely to luck is a clear sign of envy. When someone says “aren’t you lucky,” they are actually projecting their own insecurities and inability to attain similar success. They are trying to downplay the hard work and effort put in by the individual by attributing it to luck. A genuine person would acknowledge the hard work and accomplishments of others without feeling threatened or envious.

5) “Learn to take a joke”

This phrase is often used to dismiss the feelings or concerns of someone who was offended by a so-called “joke.” In reality, these jokes are often insults disguised as humor. A genuine response would be for the person to apologize and try to understand why their joke was hurtful. Laughing it off and telling someone to “learn to take a joke” shows a lack of empathy and a preference for amusement at the expense of others’ feelings.

6) “Get over it”

Telling someone to “get over it” is an ingenuine response that shows a lack of understanding and empathy. It is a way of dismissing someone’s problems or concerns without engaging in a meaningful conversation. A genuine person would be willing to listen, provide emotional support, and help find a solution or resolution, rather than trying to avoid the issue altogether.

7) “I’m just different”

While everyone is unique in their own way, a genuine person recognizes that they are not the only complex individual in the world. They understand that everyone has their own quirks and complexities. Claiming to be completely different or incomparable to others is a sign of self-centeredness and a lack of self-awareness. Genuine individuals acknowledge and appreciate both their own uniqueness and the uniqueness of others.

8) “I think you’re [an avalanche of generic compliments]”

While compliments are generally nice to receive, if someone repeatedly gives overly generic compliments without showing deeper understanding or attention to detail, it may indicate ingenuity. Genuine compliments go beyond superficial observations and acknowledge the little things that make a person special. They are sincere and heartfelt, rather than just a strategy to gain favor or manipulate.

9) “This is me. Deal with it”

Considering oneself as a finished product and refusing to acknowledge the need for growth and improvement is a highly ingenuine attitude. A genuine person recognizes that personal growth is a lifelong journey and accepts responsibility for their actions and behaviors. They are open to constructive criticism and willing to make changes to become a better version of themselves. Instead of dismissing feedback or concerns, a genuine person would be open to understanding and improving.